1. BE YOURSELF做自己
All of my tips will give you tricks and ideas, but I mean for them all to be enhancements of who you really are, not make you into someone you’re not. If you’re fake, it doesn’t matter if you get a guy to fall in love with you, because he won’t really be in love with the real you. So, my first idea is to always be myself, no matter what, so a guy likes me for me。这些建议能提供给你一些技巧，不过我希望它们对你来说是改善自己的建议，而不是让你变成另外一个人。不过你不够真诚，那么不管哪个男生爱上你就都没有意义了，因为他爱上的不是真正的你。所以，我的第一条建议就是无论何时永远做自己，这样男生才会因为爱你而爱你。
2. OPTIMIZE YOUR APPEARANCE精心打理自己
Whenever I’m trying to be more attractive to someone, I always optimize. Now, this doesn’t mean I starve myself to look thin, buy tons of new clothes, or get a dramatic hair cut. Instead, I just try to make myself look my best. This means a cute outfit that emphasizes my best features, combed and fixed hair, a little makeup, a clean bright smile, and a spritz of light perfume。当我想要在某人面前显得有魅力时，我总会精心打理自己。不是为了减肥让自己饿肚子，不是买一大堆新衣服，也不是剪一个夸张的发型，而是努力让自己看起来最好。我会选一套漂亮的衣服突出我的特点，梳理好发型，化一些淡妆，保持笑容灿烂，再洒上一些香水。
3. LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN倾听，倾听，倾听
Guys love to talk about themselves, and they think a girl who actively listens to them is so charming. So, I always listen more than I talk when I was trying to attract a guy. Talk about yourself, current topics, news events, etc about 20% of the time, and let him control the conversation about 80% of the time。男生喜欢说自己的事，他们觉得认真听他们说话的人非常有魅力。所以，当我试图去吸引男生的时候听的总比说的多。用20%的时间谈谈你自己，最近的热点话题，最新发生的事件，让他们控制80%的谈话时间。
4. LAUGH A LOT经常笑
Guys are drawn to girls with a great sense of humor, and I think humor always begins with a lot of laughter. So, I always tried to laugh a lot and be easy to please when I was trying to attract a guy. If I want a guy to fall in love with me, I make sure to laugh and all his jokes!男生会被有幽默感的女生吸引，而我认为幽默感的第一表现就是展现笑容。因此当我想吸引男生时，我会经常笑，表现得容易相处。当我想要男生爱生我的时候，我会确保他每讲一个笑话我都会用笑声回应！
5. HAVE A GREAT ATTITUDE态度积极
In my experience, guys like girls with cheerful, sunny dispositions. No one likes to hang out with a pessimistic, negative person. So, I always try to look on the bright side of life and be a “glass half full” person when I’m trying to catch a hot guy. People always tend to look my way more often and gravitate toward me when I’ve got a smile on my face!根据我的经验，男生喜欢性情开朗的女生。没有人想要和悲观的人一起出去玩。因此当我想要吸引很不错的男生时，我总是试图从好的一面看待生活，而不是从悲观的角度看待问题。当我的脸上挂着笑容时，我的回头率会更高，人们会更容易被我吸引。
6. BE SWEET亲切
Sometimes, I can be catty… all girls can be. When I’m with my girlfriends, we’ll gossip or trash some other girl for being rude or trashy, but that’s not a nice way to act. And, let me just tell you, I’ve learned that this kind of behavior doesn’t attract guys. Boys are drawn to girls who are sweet and don’t gossip, so keep cattiness and snotty comments to yourself around your new guy。有时我是一个爱对人说三道四的女生…所有女生都是这样。当我和女性朋友在一起时，我们会一起鄙视那些粗鲁的女生，不过这样对人其实并不好。让我告诉你吧，我发现男生不喜欢这样的行为。吸引男生的是不在背后说三道四的亲切的女生，所以在刚开始约会男生面前不要发表这些恶毒的评论，放在自己肚子里就好了。
7. FLIRT调情
Some of my friends used to think flirting was beneath them, but I’m telling you – it works. Guys just love to be showered
with attention and treated like a king. Toss your hair a little bit, throw your head back and laugh, grin a lot, and look up and him from under your eyelashes. Even those these old tricks might seem tried and true, they’re tried and true because they actually work!我的一些朋友曾经对调情很不屑。不过告诉你，调情其实很管用。男生喜欢别人给他大量的关注，把他当成国王一样看待。摸摸你的头发，把头发向后一甩然后对着他微笑，歪着头看他。虽然这些看起来很老套，不过之所以老套是因为这个方法真的有用！
8. BE DIFFERENT与众不同
Trying to be unique and different is a way I’ve always tried to interest guys. I don’t want him to think that I’m just like all the other girls out there… instead, I want to be seen as charming, witty, and smart. So, I don’t talk about all those same old topics, like school gossip. Ask him about how he feels about current events or newsworthy stories and show him you’re worldy!表现得与众不同，这是我经常用来吸引男生的方法。我不想让他用看待其他所有女生的眼光来看待我，我希望他把我看成一个有魅力、风趣聪明的人。因此我不会谈论那些已经被说烂了的话题，例如学校里的八卦等等。问问他对最近的热点事件有什么想法，有什么有新闻价值的事件，让他知道你是个关心时事的人！
9. BE WITTY风趣
As I said before, guys like a girl with a sense of humor. The best way to show you value humor is to laugh at his jokes, but I always try to crack a few jokes myself, too. Guys are drawn to girls with a funny side, and there’s nothing that draws two people closer than sharing a laugh. So, I always bust out a few comments or funny one-liners when I’m trying to draw a guy to me。如刚才我所提到的，男生喜欢有幽默感的女生。显示你有幽默感的最好方法就是用笑来回应他说的笑话，不过我也经常试着自己讲几个笑话。男生喜欢懂得幽默的女生，另外也没有什么比一起大笑更能拉近两人距离的事情了。
10. INITIATE PHYSICAL CONTACT主动身体接触
Guys love physical touch, and touching someone is a quick way to develop intimacy. When I’m trying to attract a guy’s attention, I will look for ways to bring physical touch into play. For instance, I touch his arm lightly when I’m laughing at a joke, or I’ll slap him on the knee playfully if he says something funny, or I’ll touch his hand while I’m explaining something。男生喜欢身体接触，身体上的触碰能够让两人更加亲密。当我想要吸引男生注意力的时候，我就会想办法发展一些身体接触。例如，当我听到笑话大小的时候我会轻轻地接触到他的肩膀，或者他在说一件趣事时我会拍拍他的大腿，或者我会在向他解释一个事物时碰碰他的手。
11. BRING HIM A TREAT给他一点小礼物
The old saying that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach isn’t just an old saying for no reason- it’s totally true! I always bake a little treat for a guy when I’m trying to make him fall in love with me, and then I just surprise him with it on a random day. When my husband and I were first dating, I left a bag of treats in his locker before every football game. He just loved it!有话说得好，想要抓住男人的心，先要抓住男人的胃。这句话之所以经典并不是没有理由的——这句话说得太对了！当我想要让男生爱上我时，我总会给他烤一个小蛋糕，在随便哪一天出其不意地送给他。当我和我丈夫最初开始交往的时候，我会在每场足球赛之前在他的储物柜里放上一小袋吃的。他爱死这些东西了！
12. GIVE HIM FREEDOM给他自由
When a guy’s trying to determine if you’re girlfriend material, he will test you a little bit. My advice at this point is to give him his freedom, and that will send him right back for more. In my experience, if any guy every got the impression that I’d try to tie him down, he’d be gone lightening fast. So, let your guy know that you value and respect his time with his friends, playing sports, or whatever it is he does in his spare time。男生有时会测试一下女生，看看她是否适合做女朋友。我的建议是，给他一点自由的空间，这样他就会马上回到你的身边。根据我的经验来看，男生只要一开始觉得我想要束缚他，他就会飞也似地逃走。所以你要让男生知道他和朋友在一起的时，参加体育活动时，或是他想在闲暇时间做其他任何事时，你都会重视并且尊重他的想法。
13. LET HIM CALL YOU让他给你打电话
When I’m trying to get a guy, I play a little hard to get. I don’t call him all the time, try to track him down, or generally make myself a bother. I want him to think that I’m too busy out there having a great time to bother with him, and that he better get in touch with me quickly if he’s interested in sharing any time with me! Let him do the pursuing, and he’ll be much more interested in you。当我想要得到一个男生的心时，我就会表现得让他觉得我很难到手。我不会一直打电话给他，不会试图知道他每时每刻在哪里，不会自己给自己添任何麻烦。我希望他觉得我太忙了，没时间理他，如果他对我还有意思就快点联系我。让男生来追你，这样他会对你更有兴趣。
14. PRACTICE MIRRORING STRATEGIES模仿他的动作
Okay, this seems a little creepy at first, but just hear me out. Whenever I want to impress or charm someone (not just guys, but anyone)， I do a little physical mirroring. What this means is taking whatever physical action that person does, waiting about five seconds, and then copying the motion. For instance, if your guy rests his elbow on the table, wait five seconds, and then put your elbow on the table. Sounds silly, but it works! It creates a connection between me and the guy that he just can’t explain。好吧，乍听起来可能有点毛骨悚然，不过还是先听我说完吧。当我先要给别人留下印象或是吸引别人时(不只对男生，对所有人都如此)，我就会模仿他的身体动作。具体意思是：无论这个人做了什么动作，等五秒，然后重复一遍他的动作。比如说，你心仪的男生把手搁在桌子上，等五秒，然后你也把手放在桌子上。这听起来很傻，不过真的有用！这样我和那个男生之间产生了一种共鸣，而且他根本无法解释。
15. MAKE EYE CONTACT眼神交流
Staring deeply into someone’s eyes quickly ramps
up the intensity of the connection between two people. So, if I’m trying to get a guy to fall in love with me, I stare deeply into his eyes while we’re talking. Now, don’t look too long, or you’ll appear to be a stalker… but you definitely want extended eye contact。直视别人的眼睛能迅速加强两人之间的联系。当我想要让男生爱上我时，我就会在谈话时只是他的眼睛。不过，不要盯太长时间，不然你会看起来像跟踪狂一样。眼神交流的时间长绝对是没有错的。
16. DON’T APPEAR DESPERATE别显得太粘人
Guys aren’t attracted to desperate, clingy
girls who seem like they can’t get anyone else. Guys are attracted to busy, happy, popular girls who seem like they’ve got it all under control and who have the world at their feet. Even if you think you aren’t popular, happy, or busy, try to appear that way to your guy. That means, don’t say yes if he asks you out last minute. Tell him you’ve got other plans, but you’d love to schedule something with him in a few days. Play hard to get!男生不喜欢粘人的女生，这样感觉就好像这个女生找不到其他男人了一样。男生喜欢忙碌快乐、受人欢迎的女生，那种看起来能掌控一切、让全世界拜倒在她的石榴裙下的女生。就算你觉得你不是这样的女生，想办法让他觉得你是。也就是说，当他在最后一刻邀你出门时，不要答应他。告诉他你有别的计划，但是你很乐意过几天安排跟他出门。要欲擒故纵！
17. BE TRUSTWORTHY值得信任
Guys love someone they can trust. I learned the hard way that telling my girlfriends every thing about a new guy in my life wasn’t the best idea. Word always gets back to the guy that I’ve talked about what he told me or told details about our time together, and he always bolts. Discretion
is the best policy. Don’t tell your girls every little bit of your private conversations, and your guy will trust and respect you much more。男生喜欢值得相信的人。把新男友的事一股脑儿全都告诉闺蜜可不是什么好主意，我曾经在这点上接受了深刻的教训。当我把男生和我一起时告诉我的事说给别人听，或是告诉别人我们在一起时的细节时，这些话最后总能传到他的耳朵里，他每次都很生气。说话前最好要谨慎。不要把你们私密的谈话中的每个细节都告诉你的闺蜜，这样男生就会更信任你，也更尊重你。
18. LEAVE A LITTLE MYSTERY保持一点神秘感
When I am trying to attract a guy, I don’t want to be an open book to him. I’ve found that guys like a little mystery… they keep coming back for more if you leave more to find out. Think of your information, history, interests, etc. like a treasure hunt… give your guy little clues, but don’t let him find the treasure right away. He’ll want to keep calling and asking you out just to learn more about you!当我想要吸引男生时，我不想让他把我的一切都看得清清楚楚。我发现，男生都喜欢带点神秘感的女生….。。如果你总能让他们发现更多不为他们所知的你，男生就会想要回来更好地了解你。想着你有哪些信息，有什么样的历史，有什么爱好等等，这对男生来说就像寻宝一样，给他一点小提示，但是不要让他们一下就发现宝藏。他会想要不断地打电话给你，邀你出去——只是为了更好地了解你！
19. BE SUPPORTIVE OF HIS INTERESTS支持他的兴趣爱好
Guys love it when girls show they’re interested in what guys are interested in. So, even if I hate his favorite sport, I’m going to watch it with him and discuss it with him to show a guy I’m both interested and interesting. When I dated a guy who loved basketball, I researched all about it so I could carry on a conversation with him, even though I hated basketball. When I dated a wrestler, I went to several matches to cheer him on, even though I think wrestling is boring. It will attract a guy if you show him you’re interested。男生希望女生对他们感兴趣的东西有兴趣。所以，就算我很讨厌他最喜欢的那项运动，我也会跟他一起看比赛，跟他讨论这项运动，告诉他我对他有兴趣的东西也有兴趣。我曾经和一个喜欢篮球的男生约会，虽然我很讨厌篮球，但是我还是把跟篮球有关的事全都调查了一遍，这样我才能把话题继续下去。
20. HOLD OFF ON THE PHYSICAL INTIMACY身体接触时保持点距离
My last tip has to do with physical intimacy, or making out, heavy petting, or sex. If you truly want to make a guy fall in love with you, you’ve got to hold out on stuff like this for as long as you can. Most guys I dated and are friends with just go after a girl for the thrill of the chase at first. It takes time for them to realize that they actually care about the girl. So, hold off on physical intimacy to give your relationship a chance to develop first。我最后的建议和身体接触有关，或者说是亲热、爱抚、性。如果你真的想让一个男生爱上你，那么对于这些事你能保持多少距离就要保持多少距离。很多我交往过的男生只是想体验一下追女生最开始的新鲜刺激而已。他们要过一段时间才能意识到自己真的关心这个女生。所以在身体接触时保持一点距离，让你们的关系先逐步发展。
